NOTE: Unfortunately, Part one of this was accidentally deleted while trying to edit it, and the page no longer exists
Another thing which I think can prevent us from finding joy in our home-making, is our agendas.
Women throughout history seem to share a common struggle with Agenda. It distorts and complicates much of our thinking and can leave us mentally and emotionally exhausted before the day is done. I personally believe that it can hinder God's practical work in our lives, because we cannot get our 'sticky fingers' off situations; instead of sharing - and then leaving our cares with our Heavenly Father. Very often women have agendas concerning husbands or their adult children - These are sometimes perceived as wanting the best for them, yet it can actually be simply a strong impulse to control situations; and I think that the root of our agendas are mostly Fear.
Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.
1 John 4:18 -
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love
There can be torment in our fearful agendas. They steal the joy, and peace in our daily lives.
1 John 3:1
Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therefore the world knoweth us not, because it knew him not.
We are often unaware that our agendas are actively influencing our level of peace and our purpose through the day. I think it is very helpful to share them with Him when we wake each morning, and know that He has heard our prayers. We can thank him in faith and turn to other matters. It is like a spiritual clearing of clutter, similar to clearing away over-whelming clutter in our homes. Clutter just gets in the way of everything and it is such a relief to get it out of the way. It is much easier to enjoy home-making when things are picked-up and not clogging up our thoughts. When I say clutter, I am not talking about the pretty and calming things around us. I mean the type of clutter that is ugly, unloved, and which stresses and upsets us.
I believe that another, more obvious barrier to the joy-full home-making sought by women, can be "self"-ish-ness. I remember a time when I would wake up each morning and feel utterly depressed and unmotivated. I kept praying for help and could not understand how I would ever feel happy. Then my answer came. I found that if I would take the focus off myself, and onto others, my mood would lift within a very short time. I experienced this same answer to prayer many times. Today, the world teaches that putting ones-self first, is the key to contentment. Of course, that is not true.
For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: but whosoever will lose his life for my sake, the same shall save it.
Mark 10:44-45 And whosoever of you will be the chiefest, shall be servant of all. For even the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many.
Many home-makers find the benefit of making a list of those things which need to be done in her day. Mostly, the list acts as a guideline; as life often gets in the way, and changes our plans.
The list can also help us to turn away from those exacting agendas and focus on the joy of our daily business of home-making. In a way, when we write things down, we can put our priorities in order. Our priority is not to achieve a spotless house to the detriment of the family and their needs. What is the purpose of our home-making?
“I believe that a godly home is a foretaste of heaven. Our homes, imperfect as they are, must be a haven from the chaos outside. They should be a reflection of our eternal home, where troubled souls find peace, weary hearts find rest, hungry bodies find refreshment, lonely pilgrims find communion, and wounded spirits find compassion.”
― Jani Ortlund
Have a Joy-full day ladies