Genesis 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them
Why is something as simple as 'being ladylike' so difficult to do in practice? I think one major reason is that women are just not comfortable with their gender. Many women have lost touch with the value and specialness of 'womanhood'. The scripture above is one we may be so familiar with and yet have never grasped the immensity of its message. God created us in HIS own image, male and female! He couldn't do without one or the other, for more than just reasons of procreation..
Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man [Adam] should be alone; I will make him an help meet [a helper suitable] for him
So we can understand that men and women are different, complement one another and are made in His image.
It can be a helpful thing to meditate on these Scriptures, asking the Holy Spirit to help us understand and become comfortable with our female gender
|Image Flickr (free parking) Is being lady-like just about etiquette?|
When we are unsure of, or uncomfortable with our female souls, we can feel very vulnerable with the concept of lady-likeness. Skirts feel 'funny', wearing hair long might make us feel 'unprotected' or similar. So I think of becoming lady-like as a gentle journey towards getting to know, and to celebrate our feminine selves. Whenever we begin our journey, let's take our time and enjoy the learning.
Have some FUN with these challenges
1. If you have any feelings of fear, vulnerability, or unfamiliarity with your femaleness, ask God to reveal and help you in those areas, so you can truly love being the womanly 'you' He created.
2. (Beginner)Put on a skirt or a dress. I know from experience that as you get used to wearing skirts, you actually start to feel more feminine and more confident. If you are afraid of wearing a skirt, try a longer length denim skirt. Wear it in the house, even in secret! until you get used to the feeling. Be careful to choose dresses or skirts that are modest - we are looking for lady-like not 'sex chick' !
2. (Advanced) Put on dresses or skirts which are of very feminine fabrics and style. Try and have a change from solid colours or drab fabrics. Think flowing, draping, full skirts and florals, and small prints. Lace, velvet, ribbons and all things feminine, or a nice barrette in your hair. Maybe have a picture in your mind of those Victorian Ladies in the paintings. Just one or two feminine touches can make you feel more lady-like, while retaining gentle modesty.
3. If you have children, join them for a tea-party in the house. The boys will enjoy these too and will have the chance to practice 'polite society', and eat some nice cakes or fancies. Girls can dress up and serve the 'tea' to guests - not forgetting teddy. They will love sharing this with you. Maybe you could find a pretty cloth or flowers for the table (or find a special children's tea-set to delight them at Christmas) Perhaps have some grown-up tea parties too, and invite your friends.
4. True lady-likeness comes from the inside, from the heart. It is gentle, kind, considerate, and thinks of others.
Galatians 5:22-23 (KJV)
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,  Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law
Practice the lady-like art of conversation. Let others know they are valued and important to you by giving them your full attention when they are speaking. Listen with patience and do not be ready with a clever witicism or your own agenda.
I will be exploring more about inner lady-likeness soon. I hope you will join me.
5. Pay attention to how you walk. Look in the shop windows or ask your family. Ladies do not stride forth - unless it is an emergency- take slightly smaller and slower steps, and know that you will look instantly more elegant.
Please ladies, let me know if you try any of the above challenges and what results you got - even if they were not quite what you expected. I would love to know
farewell, adieu, dear readers - until we meet again